"You might want to be careful. There are a lot of ustazs out there who marry their students or someone related to their students... Kalau dah berkenan, ada saja makcik pakcik nak offer anak dia lah, anak buah dia lah, apa lah..."
To be honest, yes, I sometimes worry about hubby receiving all these 'offers'.
But the fear of 'exposing' him to others have to be balanced with the acceptance that I must share him with others. It is one of his responsibilities to spread the message of Islam, to share his knowledge with others, thus it is my responsibility to give him my full support. And with that I have to put my trust in him too.
Anyway, I admit that I do not trust him 100% - a lot, but never 100%. Been advised by others to keep being a little suspicious all the time, not to the extend of ruining the relationship, but enough to be aware of 'unwanted possibilities', because one can never be too trusting... And yes, I've read/heard of so many stories of wives being surprised by their trusted-to-be-faithful husbands' "unsangkarable acts"... Nasty surprises.
Ok, so maybe one have to be careful and be a little 'jealous' (cautious) all the times, but sometimes I wonder - what ratio of trust:jealousy is 'balanced' enough?
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